FROM THE PASTOR’S DESK (June 16, 2013)
“And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4
As I have stated on many occasions, Fatherhood is one of the most fulfilling privileges that a man can have. We have been entrusted with the awesome responsibility of providing all of the necessary training and instructions that our Children need. It is an awesome responsibility because we have been given the task of being the model of God the Father in front of our children. What I am trying to express is that we must show the unconditional love to our children that God has shown to us. We must be the provider for our family; because God provides for us. We must be the protector of family; because God protects us. We are required to deal with our children when they get out of order, and still maintain a steadfast love for our children.
As fathers, we are the thermostat of our homes; we have been given the task of being the primary influence in our homes. Here’s what I am talking about; the way we function in our homes will be a major factor in what our children see and becomes a frame of reference for them to follow. We are often drawn back to the patterns of our fathers. Usually when a son or daughter witnesses a hardworking parent, most of the time they will ordinarily follow the pattern set by the father. Here’s another important point: when the children see how their father treats their mother, which goes a long way in determining the respect or lack of respect the son will give women. A father’s influence will also go a long way with our daughters in determining the type of man they allow in their lives. It is imperative for us as fathers to be the best examples in our homes.
Fatherhood is the greatest privilege a man can experience. Early on there will be challenges in raising our children; there will be times when we may not feel that we are getting through to them and our frustration level is challenged. There will be times when they drive you so crazy, that you wonder who are these children? There will be time when our children face problems and you are not able to solve the problem for them. But on the flipside, there will be days of great excitement when your child brings home a great report card or scores the game winning basket or someone tells you how polite your child was. There will be times you come home and the children have cleaned the house, taken out the trash and maybe even cut the grass. I have learned to take the good with the bad and realize that Fatherhood is wonderful.
Our children should see us as men who love Jesus and run to him for guidance. They should see us on our knees praying and reading the Scriptures with them, showing them that Jesus is the only way. I want to close by stating that the most important thing about fatherhood is that we model a life that is devoted to Jesus Christ. That is the best thing we could ever give to our family.
Your servant in Christ,