Beware of The User Mindset

From the Pastor’s Desk (June 23, 2013)

Have you ever known anyone who always wants you to do something for them? Or, do you know an individual or individuals who are always asking you for something; or someone who seems to always need you to do something for them, and when you need them to do something for you; they will not come through on your need, or they find excuses as to why they cannot do for you what you have done for them? These individuals are what is known as “users.” The user always has his/her hand out for themselves.  “Users” are those who are extremely self-centered, and all they care about is what will please them, or whatever they can get for themselves.

I have witnessed that users usually do not even think they are users.  They have spent most of their lives getting all they can get from others, while not even trying to reciprocate to those who have graciously extended kindness unto them by granting their request.  I am reminded of a man in Scripture named Laban, who fits the profile of a user.  Laban was the brother of Rebekah and the father of Rachel and Leah who became Jacob’s wives.  As the account in Scripture goes, Jacob was sent away to his uncle Laban in order to escape his Brother Esau’s fury and to find a wife; upon arriving in Padan-aram, Jacob came unto his Uncle Laban; after staying with Laban for a month, Laban told Jacob to ask for what he wanted.  Jacob fell in love with his youngest daughter, Rachel.  He told his uncle that he would work for him for seven years.  Meanwhile, God blessed Jacob tremendously and Laban noticed it. When it came time to grant Jacob his request for his daughter Rachel, Laban tricked him and gave him Leah.  He then told Jacob to work seven more years for him and he would give him Rachel for wife.  As you can see, Laban was a user.  And even after the next seven years, Laban still did not want him to leave because he was benefiting from Jacob’s presence.  As you read the story, Laban was a greedy man who used Jacob in order to get what he wanted. After twenty years Laban was unwilling to part with Jacob, whose presence was an assurance of Divine blessing.  Don’t let that be your testimony.

Users are extremely selfish; they tend to only see things that will benefit them only.  They don’t care about anyone else; they have the mentality, “What have you done for me lately?” It is all about them.  Users normally get very angry when someone suggests to them that they are “users.” If your reaction is to become intensely angry if someone implies that you are a user, then you stand guilty.

Paul expresses what the mindset of the selfless individual should be in Philippians 2:3-4 (NKJV) he says, “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.” “Let each of you look out not only for his own interests but also for the interests of others.” A non-user will always seek the interest of others in order to be a blessing, and not to get his own interests taken care of only.  Now to all those who are angry with me regarding this Pastor’s Desk, you have just exposed yourself.

Your servant in Christ,

Pastor Moore