A soft answer turns away wrath…Proverbs 15:1a
…a gentle tongue breaks a bone. Proverbs 25:15b
Have you ever thought about the things we say to one another, and how we say it? Sometimes, it is sad to say, we often open our mouths and say things without even thinking; or the tone in which we use can be very harsh. We have the ability to either build up or tear down. It is imperative that we take time to stop and think about the words coming out of our mouths, and the attitude in which those words come out of our mouths.
I have always tried to speak to others the very same way I want to be spoken to. It is very sad when someone speaks to someone else with major attitude, or with a sharp tongue; and they turn around and get offended or angry when someone talks to them with the same attitude or sharp tongue. You need to stop and think about how you talk to others, and respect them if you want them to reciprocate the same to you.
Think about this, a kind word thoughtfully expressed to someone can bring great encouragement to the one who is experiencing difficulty. I have on a number of occasions been down about various set backs happening in my life, and someone will come along, and express words that remove me from my dilemma. Or, someone will send me a card with words that they have written by their own hand that lifts the burden that I have been carrying. Those are things that I thank God for. Those are kind words that have a great effect on me. On the other hand, someone else came along another time when I was down, and very rudely told me that I needed to “get over it.” Now look, I have seen that same individual, get angry and even hurt when someone else spoke to them in the same manner that they always speak to others. I felt like saying, you can dish it out, but you can’t take it, can you?
We have a responsibility to come along side of our brothers and sisters and be an encouragement unto them. It is sad to say that there are so many negative people who are always spouting off something negative that always discourages. Anyone can say negative, mean, cruel and hurtful things; and I want you to know there is a difference between being honest with someone and being mean spirited. We must be honest with those whom we love and tell them in a firm but loving way what it is that they have erred in. We must not be condescending, as though we are so much better than they are, acting as though we have never sinned a day in our lives. That is a true sign of arrogance. We must always remember how we want to be talked to. No one wants to be talked down to or ridiculed. We all want to be talked to with respect.
Kind words are great motivators, I always find myself drawn to those whose words are seasoned with grace; not those who never have a kind word to say about anything. Or those who are always critical, it seems, about everything. We are instructed by the Apostle Paul to let our “speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.” (Colossians 4:6). Our speech should act not only as a blessing to others, but as a purifying influence also. Let us speak those things that will honor God and edify our brothers and sisters in Christ.
Your servant in Christ,