The ear that hears the rebukes of life will abide among the wise. He who disdains instructions despises his own soul, but he who heeds rebuke gets understanding. Proverbs 15:31-32
Let me begin by asking that everyone take a sincere look within themselves, and then, I want you to ask yourself the question, if your able to handle things about yourself that is pointed out by others? I want you to notice that I said by others; not just one person. I have encountered some who are in a constant state of denial when it comes to something that is a negative flaw about them. They refuse to look within and accept their flaw. Now look, I’m not talking about someone who does not care for you, and that individual comes to you and berates you with insults; no, that’s not the one I am bringing to your attention. I’m talking about those who love you, and in love they come to you and bring to your attention something you are doing or something you are involved in that is wrong; they have your best interest at heart. Proverbs 27:6 states, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” That simply means that a friend loves you and will tell you the truth regardless, and they will do it in love; but an enemy will always tell you flattering things about you and not care that they are lying to you.
We must not be so foolish to think that everyone who informs us of some truth about us is against us or wants to harm us. Do you remember King David, after his sinful act with Bathsheba that led to his murderous cover up? Do you remember when He was confronted by Nathan the prophet with a parable about two men who lived in the same city; one had a large flocks and herds. And the other man was poor and had only one little ewe lamb which he loved and was like a daughter to him. A traveler came to visit the rich man; the rich man wanted to provide something to eat for the traveler; he refused to take from his own flock and took the poor man’s lamb and prepared it for the man who had come to visit him. David became very angry against the man and wanted to put him to death, because the rich man had no pity on the poor man. Then Nathan the prophet said to King David, “You are the man.” King David was devastated, and immediately repented of his treacherous act, and said, “I have sinned against the LORD.”
When you think about it, David was able to point out the faults of someone else, and he refused to see his own fault until Nathan told him that he was that individual who was guilty. He received the rebuke from the prophet, and took responsibility of his own actions. If you have trouble receiving the truth about yourself when you are blatantly wrong; that is nothing other than pride. You must remember the words of the Proverb writer, “Pride goeth before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” Proverb 16:18. It is a sad thing when you are unwilling to accept the truth about yourself. Why don’t you take the time to examine yourself and when you discover your faults, then repent? You are not fooling anyone else, but yourself.
Your servant in Christ,